“Living in a state of gratitude is the gateway to grace.”
Arianna Huffington
ALOHA FOCUS FOR THE WEEK: AKAHAI
When our students visit ʻĀina Aloha o na Lima Hana, our community partner farm at Luluku, they are told to shed any negative feelings prior to entering the loʻi. The mahiʻai warn that the kalo absorbs the energy brought onto the land. Like the warming beams of sunshine, joy and love help the plants to grow heartily. However, anger and hate act like an herbicide, shriveling the roots and causing the leaves to dry and curl.
In the past, I was criticized by a few people who said that I seemed “not present.” At the time, I protested, arguing that I invested heavily in my relationships and my work. Years later, I now wonder if this criticism was indifferent to my productivity and instead predicated on the energy I emitted. At work and at home, perpetually tired, I felt emotionally and psychologically spent. In retrospect, I was unhappy but did not acknowledge it. I poured myself into my work and other distractions. And while it was a time of fruitfulness, our school being recognized for elevating innovation, inclusivity, and ʻāina education, I swallowed my stress.
By overlooking my unhappiness, I failed to properly address what was causing it. This denial shriveled my health, grayed my hair, poisoned my blood. The stress must have been leaching from me like a subtly dank stench from an overused t-shirt.
Gratefully, my life changed . . .
I
made changes
to my life.
I met Pono Shim, Puanani Burgess, and a handful of friends who deepened my learning about aloha.
My failing marriage finally dissolved.
Fate drew me into a new, fulfilling and loving relationship.
My connection with my children strengthens.
And together, our school team is steadily building a community with aloha at our core.
Everyday, I am filled with appreciation for those in my life. This is not to say we are without struggle. Struggle will always be present. But the appreciation I feel fuels my aloha. It allows me to hoʻomau – persevere – and nou akahai – spread grace as if it were a handful of seeds bringing wealth to the land.
5 PURSUITS of AKAHAI:
Inspired by Gholdy Muhammad
Please watch Ka Huakaʻi a Timoteo Haʻalilio written by Hinaikawaihiʻilei Keala and Hilinaʻi Sai-Dudoit and illustrated by Kamaehukauikahano Marrotte.
Please note the book is read in ʻŌlelo Hawaiʻi. So if you do not understand the language, I recommend watching it first, listen to the narrator and pay attention to the illustrations. Then rewatch the video, lowering the sound and reading aloud the English subtitles.
Then with you child, answer the following:
- IDENTITY: Talk with your kūpuna or makua about what living in Hawaiʻi means to your ʻohana. What do you/they appreciate and value about making Hawaiʻi your home?
- SKILLS: Using evidence from the text, what were the challenges Haʻalilio faced to gain recognition for the Kingdom of Hawaiʻi
- INTELLECT: Learn about more about Timoteo Haʻalilio and the rule of King Kamehameha III who trusted in Haʻalilio to secure recognition of the Kingdom of Hawaiʻi
- CRITICALITY: In 2023, Governor Green designated November 28 as Lā Kūʻokoʻa. Despite the overthrow of the Kingdom of Hawaiʻi, why is it important to remember Lā Kūʻokoʻa and its significance to the people of Hawaiʻi?
- JOY: With your ʻohana, celebrate Lā Kūʻokoʻa by attending one of these free events:
- 11/28 12 – 5 PM Lā Kūʻokoʻa @Bishop Museum – Register here – FREE for Kamaʻāina with registration, includes Museum admission
- 11/29 – 10 – 3 PM Kūʻokoʻa Kūkanono @Kaeʻepulu Elementary School – Free/no registration needed
EXPERIENCING THE WONDERS OF AWE WHILE RAISING CHILDREN
Remember holding your baby for the first time? Or your first time seeing the green flash at sunset? Those moments of amazement seem rare and far between. After all, it’s easy to get caught up in the routines of everyday life and feel stuck in the doldrums. Yet, if we pay attention we might find moments of wonder and amazement hidden in plain sight, especially as we interact with our children. These moments conjured by our interactions is what researchers call ʻawe.ʻ
According to Cara Goodwin of the Parenting Translator, “Research shows that parents who experience more moments of awe [with their children] report greater life satisfaction, fewer negative emotions, and a deeper sense of meaning and emotional richness in their lives.” From reflecting on the wonders of raising your children to seeing the good in them, inducing awe can have profound affects on you and your children. Read more here on how to experience awe in your own life and share this with your children.
CONTINUED PRACTICES:
NOʻAHUNA OF ALOHA
See Uncle Pono Shim explain the Noʻahuna, the esoteric meaning, of Aloha as taught to him by Aunty Pilahi, the Keeper of Secrets.
WEAR KĀNEʻOHE SHIRT WEDNESDAYS
Help us build unity and show our lōkahi by wearing a shirt that celebrates Kāneʻohe on Wednesdays. Wear any previous Fun Run or grade level shirt.
WEEKLY VIRTUAL PIKO
At the Weekly Piko, we share thoughts on the Aloha value for the week which helps us become centered and ready to learn. We begin at 8 AM everyday except Wednesdays when we meet in-person. If you would like to share your reflections on the week’s Aloha value, please contact me.
If you’d like to celebrate the accomplishments of our students outside of the school day. Please use this link to share a brief shout-out for your child that we can share at piko.
UPCOMING EVENTS
| Nov 27 | Thanksgiving Holiday – no school |
| Nov 28 | Lā Kūʻokoʻa – Hawaiian Independence Day no school; KES office open |
| Nov 29 | KES Wellness Event – Canoe Paddling Workshop for the students gr 3 – 6 and their ʻOhana – Register Here |
| Dec 5 | 5:30 – 7 PM KES Ohana Winter Activity Sign-up to participate here |
| Dec 6 | Kāneʻohe Christmas Parade |
| Dec 12 | Waiver Day #4 – no students |
| Dec 17 | School Ends at 2:05 PM (switch with 12/19) |
| Dec 19 | Winter Songfest School Ends at 1:15 PM (switch with 12/17) |