Haʻahaʻa translated as humility and expressed with a feeling of modesty, asks us to empty ourselves of judgment for others. Ha’aha’a means to be open to learning, growing and receiving new information. Rooted in willingness to accept new things, haʻahaʻa helps us to remember that we can grow and so can others around us.
Haʻahaʻan – Humility according to Aloha at Home
ALOHA FOCUS FOR THE WEEK: HAʻAHAʻA
“Do you want me to help you or would you rather learn the hard way?” Her thinly veiled criticism sharply pierced through my ears and joined the dozen of needles of doubt pincushioning my heart in my first weeks as a new vice-principal. I left behind 16 years of accomplished teaching, earning National Board Certification and winning state Teacher of the Year to become an administrator. Despite the pedagogical knowledge and experience I wielded, I couldn’t help but feel like a newbie. Everything was novel, uncomfortable and I was making mistakes left and right. Compounding my stress was the feeling that every decision I made was high stakes, impacting not just the learning but the health and safety of children. So when Nora, our Cafeteria Manager, asked me if I wanted help or to learn the hard way, I froze.
On one hand, I really wanted to try my plan for dismissing students from lunch. I had worked on it for several days, utilizing my background as a Civil Engineer, counting steps from the table to the garbage cans, taping the ground to show the traffic patterns. Nora and her crew must’ve scratching their heads and snickering at me as I drafted my plan. She had been in her position since I was high school sophomore. She saw administrators come and go, implement their sand castle like plans, gone with tides leaving no mark that they’ve been there. Compared to her many years of experience, I had to admit I knew very little and did not really know what an elementary lunch was like.
I decided to set aside my ego and ask Nora for her feedback. She decimated my plan, pointing out where students holding plates of waste would collide, where delays would occur and students would get into mischief as they waited. I felt entirely humiliated but I tried to smile through it. After all, Nora’s intent was not to hurt my feelings. She only wanted a safe and efficiently run cafeteria and I was a novice to her domain.
Thirteen years later, I am still thankful for the lessons Nora taught me. She was a stern, no-nonsense teacher filled with a treasure trove of knowledge for those willing to receive her help. Failing in front of her, I learned how an well functioning cafeteria is run. But even more, I learned how to trust and value members of your staff. As an administrator, I cannot personally run every aspect of operating a school. I depend on the ʻike of our team who possess specialized expertise I lack. This, how to be a supportive, trusting and receptive principal is the true silver linings of that initial failure.
5 PURSUITS of HAʻAHAʻA:
Inspired by Gholdy Muhammad
Please watch this: A Splash of Red: The Life and Art of Horace Pippin written by Jen Bryant and illustrated by Melissa Sweet. Then with you child, answer the following:
- IDENTITY: In the story, Horace struggled and remained determined to relearn how to paint. Ask your kūpuna to share with you a time they struggled to learn something, the failures they experienced and how they eventually overcame their challenges.
- SKILLS: Consider the factors that led to Horace Pippin’s recognition in the art world. Which do you think were most crucial?
- INTELLECT: Read more about other African American artists and their contributions to the United States art culture.
- CRITICALITY: Thinking of the most famous works of art, there are few artists of color or representations of people of color. Why might this be a problem? What messages and perspectives might we miss as a result?
- JOY: Horace based his art on his observations of life and the world around him. Over the course of this week, keep a sketch book and draw or paint the scenes you observe. How can you use these observations to tell a story?
FUN FAIR MAHALO
Once again, this year’s Fun Fair was an amazing, fun-filled event filled with delicious food, awesome craft booths, and wonderful games including the addition of a highly popular dunking booth (Mahalo to all the staff who volunteered to be “dunked” including Mrs. Kresge, Mr. Shane, Mr. O, and Harrington Sensei. A big shout out goes to Mr. Henry and Mr. Kennedy for being “dunked” but also troubleshooting the dunking mechanism and being there almost the entire time.) We sincerely appreciate all those who volunteered, including parents, family members, alumni, staff – especially those who worked multiple shifts, students, the Castle High Schoolers, and many members of the community. A huge mahalo goes out to all of those who made donations to our silent auction and other services to make the Fun Fair all the more exciting.
We are especially grateful for Fun Fair Chair and KES Ohana President Joni Kamiya and her fabulous, hardworking committee:
- Silent Auction: Daralyn Bugarin and Fern Wai
- Vendors: Meghan Tabadero and Lauren Danner
- Bounce House: Kelli Acopan
- Prizes and Scrips: Holly Kaneshiro
- Games: Justin Akagi and Lisa Kitagawa
- Swap Meet: Caro Higa
- Drinks: Shawna Kobayashi
- Student Volunteers: Michelle Bogus
- Country Market: Alysa Costa, Kiana Kapapa, and Faye Tiburcio
- Accounting: Robert Lum
- Program: Jennifer Kwok
- Graphics: Ryan Yamamoto
They and their teams of volunteers dedicated hours in the weeks leading up to the event and took off of work to set-up, run booths, and clean-up several hours after the fair closed.
Regardless of your role in making our Fun Fair a success, please know that we truly appreciate all that you were able to give and most importantly, your dedication to our keiki.
SILVER LININGS DAY 2025
On Friday, October 3, we celebrate Silver Linings Day. Similar to the International Day for Failure, Silver Linings Day highlights the silver linings that can be found in the clouds of failure. After all, failure and making mistakes are a critical part of learning. Without failure, we would be reading by candle light since it took Thomas Edison 1,000 unsuccessful iterations before inventing the light bulb. Imagine if he had given up after his first attempt. Think about Michael Jordan, one of basketball’s greatest players. He famously stated, “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
With efforts such as Silver Linings Day, we model that it’s ok to make mistakes especially when we are able to learn from them. We want all of our students to adopt a Growth Mindset and believe that intelligence, skills, capability, talent can be improved over time. These qualities are not fixed or something you’re born with. Students with a growth mindset keep going even when work is hard. They persist and relish learning from their errors.
As with every year since its inception, I will be releasing a video highlighting the process of learning a skill on Silver Linings Day. A link will be sent out that morning so that we may all celebrate mistakes together.
CONTINUED PRACTICES:
NOʻAHUNA OF ALOHA
See Uncle Pono Shim explain the Noʻahuna, the esoteric meaning, of Aloha as taught to him by Aunty Pilahi, the Keeper of Secrets.
WEAR KĀNEʻOHE SHIRT WEDNESDAYS
Help us build unity and show our lōkahi by wearing a shirt that celebrates Kāneʻohe on Wednesdays. Wear any previous Fun Run or grade level shirt.
DAILY VIRTUAL PIKO
At the Daily Piko, we share thoughts on the Aloha value for the week which helps us become centered and ready to learn. We begin at 8 AM everyday except Wednesdays when we meet in-person. If you would like to share your reflections on the week’s Aloha value, please contact me.
If you’d like to celebrate the accomplishments of our students outside of the school day. Please use this link to share a brief shout-out for your child that we can share at piko.
UPCOMING EVENTS
| Oct 3 | Silver Linings Day |
| Oct 6 – 10 | Fall Break |
| Oct 17 | ʻOhana Eureka Math Night |
| Oct 20 | Waiver Day#2 – no students |
| Oct 24 | KES Ohana Pumpkin Craft NightSign-up to volunteer here. |
| Oct 27 – Nov 7 | ʻOhana-Teacher Conferences |